I AM A WOMAN BY ALIAS DIAZ

I am a woman
I am weak, I am strong
I am quiet, I am loud
I am a woman

I cry tears that no one sees
I laugh laughs no one hears
I scream when I am silent
I am a woman

I care when no one cares
I listen when no one listens
I have rough edges that need to be smoothed out with love
I am a woman

I give my feelings to whoever will take them
I act like I love when I don't
I act like I don't care when I do
I am a woman

But whether I live
love, laugh cry or Hate
I am a woman
I am strong
I will always be woman

Such insightful words- I relate with the part that says I cry tears that no one sees, we women a have deep scars that we hide under our beautiful clothes...

We are screaming inside but no one hears us not because they are not listening but because we chose not to bother them...

Only pillows know our tears....

Sometimes we don’t get enough attention, as a result whoever receives our feelings we ourselves at them, hence sometimes we are called painful names, nobody understands a woman except a Woman!

We are strong human being...men with wombs...

 

Phenomenal Woman

By Maya Angelou 1928–2014 Maya Angelou

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.

I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size   

But when I start to tell them,

They think I’m telling lies.

I say,

It’s in the reach of my arms,

The span of my hips,   

The stride of my step,   

The curl of my lips.   

I’m a woman

Phenomenally.

Phenomenal woman,   

That’s me.

I walk into a room

Just as cool as you please,   

And to a man,

The fellows stand or

Fall down on their knees.   

Then they swarm around me,

A hive of honey bees.   

I say,

It’s the fire in my eyes,   

And the flash of my teeth,   

The swing in my waist,   

And the joy in my feet.   

I’m a woman

Phenomenally.

Phenomenal woman,

That’s me.

Maya Angelou said it all, in one word we are Phenomenal!

I love the part where she says we it’s the fir in my eyes and the flash in my teeth.

I can imagine any woman walking into a place that is filled with men, the joy she brings just by smiling,,,

without having to say one word, the confidence in the steps she take the swing in her waist,,

what an extraordinary thing a woman is Phenomenal that’s the word to describe her!

Follow up Post to appreciate WOMEN.

13 November 2014

The year is drawing to an end and I promised on my last post that I would try to appreciate more of you strong women. Did you enjoy the year 2014? Or you got to a point where you wished it would just end am sure many of us were at that stage once or twice, but guess what?  You made it and so did the rest of us-hold on we are almost there…. 2015 is calling your name I can hear it, Prosperity is calling you, and things will change sooner or later.

But before it comes I just have to say something;

Glasses up for the women who work tirelessly from the 1st of January till the 31st Of December, working in their houses turning them into homes, working in their children’s lives covering up every laceration and assuring that mommy, or your sister, or aunt or even grandmother is there for you.

Most of the time ‘we as young ladies forget our strength we forget the will we have’, today I dare to remind you the purpose of this blog; to empower women and remind them of their capabilities…you are the one that sleeps in a pool of tears but wakes up with a smile, you carry so much hurt but you make sure that people around you don’t feel the same way.

What kind of a human is a woman? It took me a long time to realize that I COULD!

WITH EVERY PUNCH I RECEIVE IN MY BODY, WITH EVERY PIERCING WORD ON MY EAR, AFTER GIVING IT ALL I STILL MADE IT… WITH EVERY TEAR FLOWING FROM MY ONE EYE I HAD IT WITH IN ME TO LAUGH OUT LOUD!

With university challenges in terms of finances I still managed to look ‘like them’, I stayed confident to a point where they couldn't tell if I was rich or poor…

I am the only one who knows my back ground and the strength the woman who gave birth to me has, and so I didn't have a choice but to be strong, I never knew that I COULD!

I AM PROUD TO BE A YOUNG WOMAN- AND I AM PROUD OF YOU YOUNG WOMAN READING THIS, YOU HAVE MADE A DIFFERENCE IN MANY PEOPLE’S LIVES, EVEN YOUR SILENCE SPEAKS LOUDER…

I SAY CONTINUE….CONTINUE…

SUCH AN INTERESTING WOMAN!!!

06 November 2014

A fashion-istar,a Beauty, a Spiritual Mother, a Pastor’s Wife, a Worshiper, a Teacher, a friend, a sister, and a Gym enthusiast.

I chose to profile and celebrate my own Multi-tusker, my Spiritual Mother; Pretty Thandiswa Mpiti a woman of integrity, a woman of valor and a woman of principle. 

There’s not a time that you find her a different person- always wearing a smile, opened arms to welcome all those in despair, she’s everything to us at Amazing Grace Church Ministries. 

To some of us she is someone to look up to in terms; of her dress code the youth calls her a fashion killer, for some, we look up to her in praise and worship, for others they like the gymnastic side of her at age 40 she’s an inspiration to younger people.

I appreciate her for being the ultimate inspiration Education wise! She completed her diploma, she’s obtained her Honors, Masters and is now currently doing a Doctorate in Philosophy (PhD)… her thesis on:  

The nature of spelling errors of Grade three isiXhosa back ground

Learner’s in English First Additional Language   is available on google: http://ufh.netd.ac.za/bitstream/10353/472/1/Thandiswa%20Pretty%20Mpiti.pdf 

That alone is a huge achievement!!

And it’s not every day that such women are appreciated, hence I took the endeavor to do so. I know for a fact that I have a lot of work to do because every single one of you should be appreciated! You don’t have to achieve everything just by being a woman, being a survivor, being a life bearer the one who smiles in every situation, you are the one that holds a household together, you are the one who sacrifices thinking about other people instead of yourself!

As time goes by I will appreciate you.

HERE'S A PIECE I WROTE FOR HER:

THANDISWA

I remember it was love at first sight, when she smiled at me time stood still… I saw the love through her eyes; it was glowing like the stars of the dark sky. In the embrace of her arms I felt the warmth that nullified every cold day in my life, the distinctive aroma of her perfume remained on the only piece of clothing I had…

Music to my ears was her voice, early in the morning it is deep as the ocean and throughout the day it is as clear as crystal… my heart beats twice at once at the sound of her laughter-being the cause behind it is even better, this is my love letter.

The ground cracks after every step she takes, the wind whistles as it carries her presence.

A diamond is a very hard jewel to find and it lasts forever, that is like our conversations. It took me a very long time to talk to you but when I did I treasured it forever.

T- tender, H- hot, A-admirable, N-nurturing, D- different, I- inspirational, S-self-sufficient, W- winner, A-amazing.

 photos taken by: Lihle Dlova using a blackberry 9720

LEARN TO CELEBRATE YOURSELF!!!

29th October 2014

And so the 29th of October marks a special day for the woman who gave birth to me...

A woman who sacrificed everything just to get me where I am today, I dare to take the time and listen to her stories telling me about her mistakes in life and how under privileged she was, hence she is going all out to give me the best she never had.

Today I celebrate her life, I celebrate all the times she woke up cold or not to go find a job just to make sure that we never went to bed with empty stomachs, I celebrate her for always being there, from the day I NEEDED A SHOULDER TO CRY ON TILL THE DAY I WAS ABLE TO WIPE MY OWN TEARS AWAY…

I celebrate her for all those phone calls she made checking up on me, telling how much she loves me…

I must admit it was never easy being raised by a single parent but she made it seem okay, knowing behind closed doors she prayed for a greater strength to face each and every day with a smile on her face.

I take my graduation hat off for my Mother…

How she forgets about herself and focuses on her patients is so heart-warming, she was really called to be a nurse.

I dare not to forget to listen to the stories of: how patients in her ward always shower her with apples, cool drinks and all sorts of appreciation gifts for taking good care of them…

I cannot miss the opportunity to wish my super woman a happy birthday and thank her for being my role model, today I am able to talk to other women and empower them because I saw her go through such tough ordeals.

I say celebrate yourself WOMAN, I say take pride in yourself from 13 years old to the oldest, enjoy this life, because no one is going to live it for you, It is said that life begins at 40? Is it true?

I believe you can be 40 and your life can still be the same, so live every day of your life as if it’s the last, you can’t wait to turn 40 then u begin your life, MAKE AN IMPACT NOW!!!

Leave your footprints engraved on the ground, wear your clothes the best way you can, achieve as many goals as you can, CELEBRATE YOURSELF WOMAN!!!

SHE GAVE IT ALL...

SHE GAVE IT ALL…

What is a woman? A woman is simply a man with a womb!

What is that womb for? It is to carry the next generation!

She goes through so much pain, from the day you asked if she could be yours and gave you herself, everything you wanted she gave you…

 

From a long day at work she comes back and does the cooking, she washes your clothes, she cleans the house, she irons your clothes, she, she, she!!!

She gave you her strength…she gave you her heart; her pulse is beating so hard she loves you! But she doesn't even get a thank you sometimes.

As she lays there next to you having sacrificed every part of her being, her soul and her feelings, her minds runs through things you couldn't even begin to imagine… why then do you hurt her? Why do you not appreciate her? Why do you send demoralizing words to her ears?

She picks the pieces of her broken heart up puts them back together and carries on loving you, that’s what she was made for- she was made to love,,,

                                             picture taken from: pilgrimsong.blogspot.com

  

Remember she gave you all she had, she spent her hours thinking about you brother! Take a deep breath and smell your shirt, smell your pillows whose scent is that? Hers, its hers!

Just take a moment and appreciate your woman, for the fact that she was beautifully created for you, and that she is part of your life….and gave herself to you.  

Here is a piece that came from a woman with a broken heart…

Its late in the evening, I stand at my kitchen door, something draws my attention up, up in the sky, the beauty I saw? Twinkling stars as if they were smiling at me and my broken heart…

The graceful movements of the grey clouds on the navy sky, signing off for the night, moving so peacefully creating images for the mind, the thought of me floating not on them but among them deep into the night.

Even the tear tracks on my beautiful face were wiped away; the clouds covered the moon as a blanket

covering my aching heart.

I stepped outside as if I’d see him there, I miss him so bad but I learnt the hard way that Life goes on; in the mean time I'll enjoy the night breeze blowing him off my mind.

written by: Lihle D.

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"SHE" RUNS THE WORLD

15 October 2014

I feel like being poetic today for some reason, if you can just allow me...

LEARNING TO BE ME IN YOU.

Why you out of all people? These words keep pondering in my mind.

Everything you do and say makes me move a         step closer…I cannot close my eyes, no matter how heavy they may become, because I know if I do just for one second you’ll be gone… please allow me to watch you, yes I know I can do it but, I wanna do it with you.

Your eyes glimmer like the stars of the dark sky, I am Learning to be me in you. Run with me through the rain, let’s run as far as we can, for there is a rainbow at the end, a sign of a victory!

Carry me for the journey is so long, yes am gonna trip and fall, but I know you’ll be there to pick me up, I am still Learning to be me in you! am gonna go through the fire, but I know you wont let me burn for long, just enough to be as pure as gold a resemblance of your face in the mirror.

I feel your presence even when am swimming in deep murky waters, you are ever waiting at the end shining as a crystal! I also feel the compassion in your hands and arms, shedding a tear here and there, thinking you wouldn't notice, but there you go wiping it away…

I asked you many times to promise never to leave me, to tell me who you are! But you never said a word, why won’t you say something? Oh how I long to hear your voice, I can just imagine its texture…

All you do is smile and my heart melts every time you do so, I am Learning to be me in you!

Who are you I ask again? Why are you so important in my life? I have so many questions for you but you never respond.

The journey is getting rough-wind blowing so strong, I can’t even breath, I am getting weary!!! Then comes a mountain, we both climb it you hold my hand tight, as a sign of hanging on…

We leaped onto a cloud I smiled thinking we had gotten there… to that place, you held my hand tighter and stronger, I didn't trust you to carry me so high, and you still haven’t said a word!

I let go thinking you’d catch me but NO! I was falling, falling so fast I couldn't even cry, the wind from the sky blazed as I saw the ground, my heart was <<<BEATING SO FAST>>> 

and you didn't even shout on what I should do? I fell **!!!BAM!!!!** but wasn't hurt, when I looked up,  you were gone….

I thought you’d come after me, water ran down my chicks L why did you leave me?? If you were here you’d wipe my tears… I miss you, I feel so vulnerable

**DURING THAT MOMENT**

I felt a hand on my shoulder, and a “voice” that sounded like strawberries dipped in chocolate, it said: ‘Its me, you've done learning to be you in me…YOU HAVE BECOME ME!!!’

And when I turned all I saw were roses…..and a mirror that's it...

This piece is written by me.THE PERSON I SAW IN THE MIRROR WAS MY TRUE REFLECTION! I WAS SENT ON A JOURNEY TO TRUST MY OWN SELF...

SO JUST TRUST YOURSELF, BE STRONG AND BE BOLD, YOU ARE THAT BEAUTIFUL ROSE... ALLOW YOURSELF TO TRANSFORM, DON'T HOLD BACK WOMAN! UNLEASH YOUR INNER STRENGTH, SPREAD WIDE YOUR WINGS AND FLY ABOVE THE CLOUDS... YES YOU CAN!

http://www.curvymagazine.com/bodyandsoul/selfacceptance/greater-than-image/attachment/black-woman-looking-in-the-mirror/

http://www.dhgate.com/free-shipping/rose-cosmetic-mirror-free-shipping.html

whats your opinion? Make up or Make down?

01 October 2014

Am opening up a discussion for you ladies Make up? Or Make down? There are both sides of the story, the good and the bad! Lets talk about it…

Starting with the BAD

Encouraging women who don’t believe to be beautiful is what I like doing the most, because I know exactly how it feels being discriminated on, being told over and over that I am not beautiful  especially with the scar that I have on my face, ending  with me believing that! Hearing such words on a constant basis caused me to lack a lot of confidence…

 But now that I have the opportunity  to talk to other girls/ladies about beauty I might as well go all out.

I have grown to notice that dark skinned women apply a lot of make up, having no idea why? Maybe it makes them feel more confident or it at least gives the impression that I can also be beautiful… let me tell you something there are people like me who have marks on their faces but still feel confident in themselves ,why would you being a dark beauty want to apply make up to look beautiful?

An African woman’s skin is the sun’s  shadow, an African woman’s skin tells others about  her inner beauty, the texture signifies oneness with yourself and the world.

It signifies completeness and self actualization, why cover all that up my dear?

The raw oils, the lines on your face were Purposely made…

I walk past you wearing this mask that makes the outside of you feel confident but leaving the inside of you crying without identity, longing to be real, hear me well Am not saying you are not real BUT YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL WITHOUT MAKE UP, MAKE IT DOWN!,

If you put it on; don’t let it take over you, don’t let it get to a point where when you don’t have it on you feel naked that is a no no!

Control the make up don’t let it control you! Remember YOU ARE A WOMAN YOU radiate beauty, it is in you let it out! Shine like the diamond that you are- Rihanna did not make a mistake by singing that SONG I  dedicate it to every woman out there, you are beautiful like diamonds in the sky.

However there is another reason why ladies MAKE UP…

I was talking to a friend of mine ASITHANDILE MASHALABA asking her what was her opinion: MAKE UP or MAKE DOWN? “MAKE UP! BECAUSE  IT GIVES ME A CONFIDENCE BOOST”-she said

I agreed with her because some of the ladies have been natural all their lives, some just don’t have the confidence to go with their natural skin or some have a problem with their skin like “eczema” and so putting make up is the only way to cover up all of that and it boosts their confidence.

Highly understood and truthful. —JUST A LITTLE bit OF MAKE UP GOES A LONG WAY IF YOU KNOW YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL BEFORE PUTTING IT ON-Lihle Dlova

What is your opinion? MAKE UP OR MAKE DOWN? Lets talk about this…